secret online dating techniques - Christian dating and boundaries

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Their vision is to encourage girls from a young age to be strong and distinctive in their Christian faith throughout their most formative years.

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You may be thinking, ‘Hang on, I’ve just found someone I really click with, and you’re telling me to put on the brakes?!

’ Not exactly – we’re not saying that you should go and put in place a ‘NO TOUCHING: EVER’ rule, but it is important to remember the ways in which we can honour God in the way we do relationships – and in turn, honour ourselves and our partner.

They want to build up girls to place God at the heart of their decision-making and entrust Him with their fears and insecurities, their hopes and dreams.

If we’re thinking ‘how far can I go before crossing the line? Sexual sin does not just exist within our bodies, but also in our minds.

While the Bible does not clearly outline the ‘thou shalt/shall nots’ of dating (dating isn’t even a concept in the Bible), from what I’ve seen, typical Christian dating begins with sly glances at each other during worship, a lot of prayer and deep consideration.

This is often followed by a few casual dates before the eventual mutual decision that yes, this person loves Jesus, I could see myself with them long-term and we’re going to make things more serious. After the hand-holding incident we were friends for a few years before sharing a few lust-driven kisses followed by one long, awkward summer during which we were NOT dating but would use every moment alone to… So when we eventually decided to make things officially official, we basically just continued along as we’d been doing before but with a little bit more of an emotional commitment and the change of our relationship statuses on Facebook. We eventually realised that our lack of physical boundaries were preventing us from connecting on a deeper emotional and spiritual level.

While we weren’t having sex (or were even remotely close to that point), the guilt we felt from what we were doing prevented us from taking the time to talk to each other and actually discover who the other person was.

So, we decided to have ‘the chat’ and boundaries were drawn.

For more advice on boundaries, read how to set up relationship boundaries whilst Christian dating.

Unless you have really good reasons to motivate you, maintaining physical boundaries in your courtship will crumble like the walls of Jericho when you really like someone and have become emotionally close to them.

Scripture doesn’t just tell us not to ‘approach’ the line, but to turn and flee from it.

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