Courting not dating

Dating Begins If a couple hits it off, the Amish dating process with the boy asking the girl if he can drive her home. At that late hour, the household will be sleeping so they have plenty of privacy.

They may sit up long into the night getting to know each other.

Bed courtship is practiced only by the ultra-conservative churches.

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This custom is also known as bundling which the dictionary defines as sleeping in the same bed with somebody while both are fully dressed. In the past, the practical reason for bed courting was comfort.

When homes were heated by fireplaces and had hard wooden furniture, the bed was the warmest, most comfortable place to socialize.

It seems strange that only the strictest Amish congregations still sanction it.

In ultra-conservative groups like the Swartzentruber Amish or the Nebraska Amish, homes are still heated by wood stoves and furnished with plain furniture with no upholstering.

They date in their buggies and drink hot chocolate or sodas.

They focus on group and outdoor activities sometimes with their parents.

Couples from more progressive churches that have drifted more toward the modern world might go into town for the evening.

Maybe they will get a bite to eat or just hang out together and enjoy each others company.

Just as in the outside world, it might take someone several tries to find a lifelong partner.

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