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Or at least wait until after you’ve actually met up.

You find out your crush is also hitting up your friend…

But now that cuffing season is officially over and spring has sprung, it’s a good time to establish some ground rules, and air out some basic do’s and don’ts. If they’re looking to get laid, they put out a thirst trap, out come the dog-filter Snapchats, the subtly sexual ‘mood’ posts and late-night ‘me rn’ selfies. Wait too long and the match loses the initial surprise and energy.

Now that ‘online dating’ is no longer secretive or taboo, it’s officially become a day-to-day part of our lives, whether you or your friends are on Tinder, Raya, JSwipe or just sliding in someone’s DM’s.

But the term ‘online dating’ already feels so dated; it’s not really relevant for our generation.

When it comes to dating, many people tie their self-worth to what others think of them or how other's treat them.

It's important to keep in mind that we live in a "me" culture, and on the whole, people are very hyper-focused on themselves. In other words, when someone acts selfishly in dating, you should focus on how this behaviour reflects on THEM as a person, rather then what it says about you. This is because deciding to stay at a cool emotional distance and "playing the field" is usually a product of getting your heart stomped on by another person.

None of my friends use or Guardian Soulmates and the sheer immediacy of dating apps is a whole different playing field to traditional ‘online dating’ or meeting someone IRL. The online playing field is fickle, fast-paced and essentially, entirely superficial.

Within minutes you can find someone hot, then find out if they like similar things to you, hang out at the same places, then within seconds find out who your mutual friends are, where they last got drunk and where their mum lives. The excitement and urgency at which we find people is reflective of the speed at which we move on.

Let the guy follow you first and don’t let this liking-game go on for too long otherwise you’ll just become Insta-friends rather than sexy friends. Irrespective of what people say, whether he takes you out for dinner, for a drink, whether its 10am or 10pm, you’re both there for one reason.

It’s just about how many hoops you both jump through to get to that end goal.

But there’s something about the online world that makes these kind of situations seem nonchalant and fun, you meet someone cute but they’re not 100% right but then you meet someone else who strangely happens to be a friend of theirs and you get along better. Too much social media starts to dilute the conversation, when you’ve already watched what they’ve done all day via Snapchat, why would you text them?

It happens and it can be fun – only if you’re not the one getting ghosted of course. If you’re following them on Instagram and liking their photos, why would you need to text them and show interest.

So - if you are in a place where you are feeling emotionally vulnerable as well, then STAY AWAY.

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